Dating expert urges you to ditch toxic people from your life for vital reason

It's a question many of us ponder daily - "should I unfriend that person on Facebook?"

Nowadays, our social media feeds are often cluttered with people who no longer play a significant role in our lives. Be it an old schoolmate, a former colleague or a past lover - sometimes our feeds are filled with updates we could do without.

Perhaps that's why TV presenter Jimmy Kimmel initiated National Unfriend Day, celebrated on November 17. The day essentially urges Facebook users to unfollow those who aren't genuine friends.

Naturally, the trend quickly gained traction, and now people eagerly await the day in November when they can officially purge their timelines. Some even argue that National Unfriend Day can shed light on serious self-esteem issues.

While it may seem like a valid reason to bid farewell to those who no longer benefit you, letting go can also be incredibly beneficial for your wellbeing. Dating coach and relationship expert, James Preece, author at HeraHaven.ai, conceded there are numerous reasons why being ruthless can boost your mood.

James said: "As National Unfriend Day approaches, now is the perfect time to reflect on the relationships in your life. While distancing yourself from someone, or even unfriending people, may seem like an extreme and uncomfortable decision, it is actually one of the most powerful acts of self-care you can practice.

"This is because we often hold onto connections, both romantic and platonic, that no longer serve us and bring us down. In doing so, this can prevent us from finding true happiness and life satisfaction.

"If you’re searching for healthier relationships, or even a dream partner, one of the best first steps to take is to let go of people who are holding you back. You simply can’t focus on meeting your dream partner if you’re still thinking about an old one.

"Focusing on a past relationship, especially one that is toxic, leaves little emotional space for new connections to grow. So, you need to make room for new people in your life by releasing old attachments.

"It’s not just removing negativity. It’s about being conscious about your own self-worth and prioritising your well-being. Cutting ties with people who make you feel miserable is an act of kindness to yourself.

"While the connection may have served you once, it’s ok to admit that you’ve outgrown them, and that it’s time to set free. Relationships evolve, and people grow apart. It’s unhealthy to hold onto something, and letting go allows both people to move forward and find true happiness."

However, James advises that before cutting ties, it's crucial to attempt to forgive the individual. Failure to do so may leave you trapped in a cycle of negative emotions.

A therapeutic approach is to write a letter to the person you're severing ties with, detailing your feelings and the impact they had on you, and then destroy it. This symbolic act enables you to release the past without the discomfort of confrontation.

Furthermore, James stresses the importance of self-forgiveness. Don't blame yourself for the relationship's demise.

Instead, acknowledge your actions were justified at the time, and now you're making a deliberate choice to prioritise your happiness. This mindset will facilitate your growth and lead to better relationship choices.

James added: "By letting go of toxic people and relationships, you’re making space for more fulfilling and healthier connections. So, take your time, enjoy the process and focus on your own happiness this National Unfriend Day."