People love mum's savage response after man's comment about daughter

While the 'desensitised' fashion marketer tried to laugh it off, her mum had others ideas

A mum has been hailed the ultimate personal dating coach after savagely telling off a man who sent her daughter a 'degrading' voicenote on a dating app. Amy Acea was having dinner with her mum Sarah Acea at Pizza Express when she showed her a 'vulgar' message she had received from a man on Hinge days earlier.

The shocking voice note included a review from the man's friend who can be heard scoffing at the 22-year-old's profile and laughing it off as 'the same sh*t' he's seen online already. He then goes on to declare she has a 'cracking pair of t**s' before making other vile jokes of a sexual nature.

While the 'desensitised' fashion marketer tried to laugh it off, her mum had others ideas and decided he needed calling ou' - and she didn't hold back. Taking to TikTok, the singleton shared a clip of her mother's 'iconic' response.

In the clip you can hear Sarah say 'I really do question your level of intelligence and your IQ if you think that comment is vaguely appropriate'. The 59-year-old mum-of-four goes on to say 'my daughter is definitely worth more than well, a two minute, oh sorry, two second [sex act]'.

Hundreds of users took to the comments to praise Sarah's response and many branded her as a 'legend'. Amy admits her mum is now her 'personal dating coach' and she enjoys that Sarah is so 'involved in her lovelife'.

After the video went viral, the Hinge user responded to the pair and admitted he [need[s] to be very careful' about what he says to avoid ending up on TikTok. Amy, who lives in Hitchin, Hertfordshire, said: "The voice message was shocking. It was really degrading and demeaning.

"I'm sort of desensitised to it. I get a lot of that on Hinge. But that was one of the more originally vulgar ones for sure. He said it with full chest. "I left it for a few days because I didn't know how to respond. I was moaning about these guys but normally when I get a message like that I don't respond.

"Then I was out for dinner with my mum and I said 'you're not going to believe what I got. This is what I'm dealing with'. She was fuming. I think I probably found it more funny than her. She was just coming up with really funny lines and good takedowns. I said 'Mum, you can handle this'.

"She'll attack your intellect before she'll attack your manhood, which is hilarious. She'll know where to hit it, which is a powerful tool. I'm actually really proud." The fashion marketer revealed she has been single for five months and initially downloaded the app to prove to her parents she was over her ex.

Her 'concerned' mum has now become very 'involved in her love life' and she has been grateful to her for getting to share these issues. Amy said: "My mum is much more involved in my love life I think than most other people have with their parents. Maybe because she's concerned. She's my own personal dating coach.

"I try to explain to her it's not that easy in your 20s because this is what you're facing. I think our mums come from a different generation where dating was totally different. It's evolved so much. She just can't comprehend saying it to someone's face let alone saying it to a stranger on an app.

"It's always a bit disheartening getting a comment like that. I'm not used to dating. Everyone says [dating apps] are like a game. I didn't believe it until I was single and went on it. I do find it a little bit daunting but having my mum makes it a bit funny. We can laugh about it and talk about it.

"Getting the amount of attention that the video did just goes to show that it resonated with a lot of people, a lot of women my age that are going through the same thing."

The daughter admitted she has lost hope in dating apps and urges people to 'know [their] worth' when faced with similar experiences. Amy said: "I'd definitely rather meet someone in person. It's sad. I downloaded it to prove to my mum and dad I was moving on from my ex.

"In terms of actually using it, I dont think it's a bit of me. Don't take it too seriously but know your worth. If it's the wrong kind of attention stay in your lane and the right things will come to you. And they certainly won't come to you in the form of vulgar voice notes on Hinge."

Her mum revealed the man needed 'calling out' to show her daughter that women should not simply accept this treatment and 'laugh it off' as she has done in the past. Sarah said: "The choice of language was so derogatory and really made my heart sink. It was a horrible thing for my daughter to receive.

"My daughter's a really bright, intelligent girl and she doesn't deserve to be spoken to in that way. When she played it to me my jaw hit the floor. We were having a lovely evening. I was a bit horrified.

"I sat there and looked at my daughter and she was laughing. She knew it was inappropriate. Women do this. Something inappropriate happens that puts you in an uncomfortable position and they laugh it off. My younger self did exactly that.

"I did think he needed calling out. It just seemed the natural thing to do really. But I hope it wasn't too inappropriate. I've brought my girls up to be articulate and stand up for themselves. But there's almost an acceptance amongst young women that they almost expect to get that."

The 'protective' mum admitted she believes the 'inappropriate' voice note points to 'misguided misogyny' within society, which makes her fear for her daughter. Sarah said: "I suppose because I'm a mum I feel very protective over my girls. I wonder whether he would've said it to her face.

"Social media and hiding behind the mobile phone platform, maybe he felt slightly anonymous and was a bit more able to say it. His motivation was to go straight in there with the masculine ideal of being strong, emotionless and highlighting his sexuality straight away. I find that really misguided.

"Whilst he might find it funny, it's completely innappropriate. I'm sure his mum would be really appalled. I'm sure the gentleman underneath when you strip away everything is a nice, thoughtful and sensitive young man.

"I think young men are off their way in society. I think there's a lot of misguided misogyny. I think society has done men a disservice as well. I don't think people are tackling some of the misogynistic attitudes that have permeated our society."

The 58-year-old admitted she views modern-day dating as a 'minefield' and was unaware of the treatment her daughter received until viewing her Hinge profile. Sarah said: "I didn't fully realise. I look at my girls and I wouldn't want to be a young woman in my 20s now and I think that's really sad. It seems to be the way people meet each other now.

"I'm in my 50s and when I was young life seemed to be much easier. You didn't have social media to navigate your way around dating. It's like a minefield for me. I don't know how my girls deal with that."

Many users praised the mum's response in the comments.

One user said: "She is iconic."

Another user said: "Your mum is a legend and well spoken."

A third user said: "Your mum is spot on and savage."

Other users took to the comments to express their shock at the voicenote.

One user said: "Where do these blokes get off thinking that talking this way to a woman is appropriate?"

Another user said: "I don't get it. Matching and then immediately fumbling any chance is crazy."

A third user said: "Someone call [his] mum because I need her opinion on his behaviour."

Hinge have been approached for comment.