Woman roasted for refusing to attend best pal's wedding because her husband isn't invited

People can't quite believe why this woman refused to go to her best friend's wedding, as she 'clutches at straws' for a reason not to go to this intimate destination wedding

Getting to see your best friends get married is a joy. Sharing a special day with them looking utterly beautiful and in love is - hopefully - a once in a lifetime experience. But we all know weddings are expensive and when you're a bridesmaid in particular it can come at a tremendous cost. Bachelorette parties, dresses, showers and wedding gifts all rack up to a large sum. But surely it's all worth it, right?

One woman simply couldn't justify attending her best friend's wedding - and people can't quite believe her reasoning. The 25-year-old explained on Reddit that the two had been "incredible friends for over a decade. She was a bridesmaid in my wedding and put a lot of time, energy, and money into throwing showers and bachelorette parties."

But now her turn has come to play bridesmaid. "She is planning a destination wedding, with accommodations and meals paid for. She stated she doesn't want any showers, parties or even gifts because she'd rather people put that towards the plane ticket. Tickets are about $700-1,300 for a roundtrip (£500-£1,000) depending on the airline and it's a very small wedding of about 20 people. We'd all be staying together on a large property for a week."

Having already got married, the 25-year-old is now saving to purchase a home in a few years, so she told her friend that she wouldn't make the wedding, citing two reasons: finances, and the fact her husband can't attend.

"I raised these issues and she and my other best friend, who is also attending, said they would help with the costs in any way they could. But regarding why my husband not invited, she said it was because of space - I'd be sharing a room with that other best friend - and the fact she doesn't know him very well. Her fiancé has never met him, and everyone else there will be close family. She said even many close family members were not invited because of how small they had to keep it."

Her best friend told her she was disappointed in her decision because she felt she did everything she could to help money-wise to facilitate her attendance, but that she was clearly unwilling to help find a solution. To which the woman responded "while it's nice that accommodations and meals are paid for, I'd still have to find a dress and cover other various expenses along the way."

Redditors couldn't quite believe that she was so adamantly unwilling to go to her best friend's wedding. "While you can choose what you spend your money on, it honestly seems like you're grasping at straws for reasons not to go. They said they would help with money and that they only want you there." One person scolded. "You must not care for your friend very much, because I would be devastated if I were the bride, having been there and done so much for you and getting absolutely nothing in return, not even your presence."

Another person suggested she needs to learn to enjoy being "alone". "I love going places without my husband. You can starfish on the bed. You can eat the smelly food he doesn't like. You can enjoy yourself without mother hen-ing anyone to be sure they're enjoying themselves. It's amazing." One person observed that "meals, accommodations covered, and they are willing to help her airfare. Now the problem is she'd have to buy a dress? If you actually wanted to go to the wedding, you could wear one of your current dresses or get something cheap in a second hand store."

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