'My wife is pregnant – one food demand she keeps making is totally unreasonable'

A man has been left baffled by his pregnant wife's eating habits, as she refuses to eat all day and then insists he go out to buy her food at 2am.

The 32 year old's wife, who is nine weeks pregnant, struggles to decide what to eat during the day but craves fast food in the early hours.

Seeking advice, the husband turned to Reddit's popular Am I The A**hole (AITA) forum to air his grievances. He explained: "My wife straight up chooses not to eat breakfast or lunch at home during the day because ‘we have nothing’ except we do and what she really means is ‘we don't have anything I want’."

He added that despite working all day, he usually prepares dinner, but struggles to find something she wants to eat.

He said she often asks him to wake up at midnight, 2am, 4am or "whatever late" time she chooses, to drive to a fast food outlet or petrol station for snacks. The husband admitted he "basically always tells her no".

The husband also revealed in a follow-up post that his wife had suddenly quit her job at their daughter's primary school without discussing it with him or devising a financial plan. Before the half term, she informed him "she wanted to quit because she’s now pregnant and she wanted to buy supplies and start her own nail business".

He expressed support for the "great idea" of starting a nail business but suggested she wait two to three months until she’d practised, "figured out how to do it and brought in a small number of clients".

His post attracted over a thousand comments from people eager to share their views. One person commented: "First, unless she is on bed rest, high risk or almost due, she can damn well drive herself... Yes, she is hormonal. That is not an excuse to do what she is.

"She needs to figure out what she can eat because not eating is not healthy for the baby or see a doctor because again, not eating is not healthy for the baby.

"Also, make a list of the snacks she asks for. Not the fast food but the snacks. Then go and buy them and stock them for when she asks. If she still won't eat them, then honestly, it sounds like she is testing you to see how far you will go, which is just wrong. You can also see about setting up if you live in a town or city where she can call and have food delivered if she gets a craving."

AITA for not getting up out of bed at 2a, 3a, or 4a to drive a store or fast food place to go get my pregnant wife food?
byu/Citrus_Twist_Red18 inAmItheAsshole

One person remarked: "Yeah, I'm wondering why she isn't driving herself. She sounds exhausting, needing to be catered to constantly. She is an adult and should be able to feed herself. She's pregnant. She can still cook and make herself something to eat."

Sharing her own experience, a pregnant woman noted: "I'm eight months pregnant, high risk, been on bed rest for almost three months now, and would never do this to my husband. I have a basket next to my bed full of snacks and drinks in case I need something in the middle of the night. He's working 60 hrs a week because I can't work. I could never imagine being selfish enough for my cravings to take away from his sleep."

While acknowledging that being nine weeks pregnant could mean peak cravings time, another individual weighed in: "Lots of women have survived pregnancy in a non-24/7 environment. We survived. We didn't expect people to do the impossible. Even in a 24/7 location I wouldn’t expect anyone to go out and get me something. Why? Because I’m an adult. I wasn’t suddenly helpless because I was pregnant."